1). a person who meddles in the affairs of others
2). a busybody is someone who meddles or pries into the affairs of others. They are considered meddlesome, prying, officious, a trouble making gossips who snoop, engage in intrigue, intrude, pry, eavesdrop, snoop, stir up trouble, and engage in scandal mongering.
3). Someone who interferes with others, one who is nosy, intrusive or meddlesome.
4). An interfering old woman who bustles about self-importantly making an officious nuisance of herself, busy about other people's business.
While the dictionaries don't have anything good to say about the busybody, the Bible describes this person in an even worse light - as one who commits sin! Do we look at this act this seriously? Do we avoid it and avoid those who behave this way? We should!
1 Peter 4:15
But let non of you suffer as a murderer, or as a thief, or as an evildoer, or as a busybody in other men's matters.
Murderer, thief, evildoer, BUSYBODY....WOW! Guess we need to learn to mind our own business!! God obviously doesn't see this act a just a bothersome nuisance, but He sees it as a wicked sin!
The book The Fruit of Her Hands by Nancy Wilson, has some great information about the busybody.
She writes:
The Sin of Having to Know
And besides they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house, and not only idle, but also gossips and busybodies, saying things which they ought not. (1 Timothy 5:13)
This passage refers to the temptation younger widow encounter when they have no husband at home to provide the ballast they need to be home-centered. But certainly, other women in the Christian community are tempted to be busy-bodies as well. It may sound harmless, but Scripture ranks this sin with some of the big ones: "But let none of you suffer as a murderer, a thief, an evildoer, or as a busybody in other people's matters." (1 Peter 4:15).
What is a busybody? In this passage, she is a woman who delights in other people's business. Instead of being focused on her own home, her own duties, her own family, the busybody is interested in everyone else's business. A busybody is "busy" gathering and passing on information. Of course, saying these things is sinful, but knowing them may be equally sinful.
Let's back up and examine how a woman becomes a busybody. First she much learn idleness, as our text says. But how does a woman learn idleness? The image seems contradictory! I suggest that it is learned by studiously avoiding the duties God has laid out for her. The budding busybody must shirk her domestic duties for the more pleasant task of "visiting".
The woman Paul describes is wandering about the neighborhood. It is far easier to leave unfinished duties behind than step over them. The woman the busybody visits can't see her laundry pile or the dirty kitchen floor. As the busybody wanders from house to house, she is far from idle: she is busy gathering information about everyone else's affairs. Does the modern busybody wander from house to house? You bet. She goes her for coffee and there for lunch. She's charging around town, dropping in and checking up. Or she may be busy chatting over the back fence while hanging out the laundry. The news gathered at stop one is repeated with relish at stop two. This also provides her with lots of prayer requests for Bible study or prayer meeting.
Of course the modern busybody is not restrained if she doesn't have the means to wander about town. She has a more convenient method - the telephone. The modern busybody can be very "busy" on the phone for hours a day. This sort of idleness may produce weariness, but it doesn't produce the fruit God requires. A woman's God-given duties must necessarily be neglected to carry on such extensive visiting.
How does the busybody conduct her visits? She asks many questions and is a keen listener. She asks questions that are meddlesome and interfering. But she seldom gives offense because she seems so genuinely interested. No detail is insignificant for her. She delights in passing on "tasty morsels" and offers much information (about others) without waiting to be asked.
Since her head is so full of "other people's matters," much of what is fact and what is hearsay is easily blurred. Now she has become not only a busybody passing on the "news," but a gossip passing on rumors. Meanwhile, is the laundry done? Is dinner planned? Can she really afford all this time?
A few cautions come immediately to mind. First, ask yourself if you are a busybody. If you are working hard at home, faithfully doing your God-given duties, then you will have little time for such foolish behavior. Nevertheless, recall your recent conversations. Have you been too involved in "other people's matters"? Do you ask questions that are really not your business? Do you pass on information about other people's affairs? And perhaps the most revealing question: Do you delight in being the first to know and the first to tell?
Second, do you have a friend who is a busybody? Take care. You may be drawn into her bad habits. Don't listen to her repeat all the news. Excuse yourself from inappropriate conversations. Do you have a regular group you meet with to "visit" and fellowship with: a homeschool group, a sewing group, a quilting group, or a reading group? Is the conversation on topic, or is it often about other people? Perhaps you should withdraw from such a group, if it is dominated by busybodies. Busybodies will be quick to criticize the children, the schooling methods, etc. of people not in the room. They will share things freely about others that they would never say if those people were present.
Finally, if you know someone to be a busybody, keep your distance. Be careful what you tell her. Assume that everything you say will get around the community. That should motivate you to exercise discretion. Be careful what you say about your family, especially about your husband. Be sure your comments are always respectful and kind and God-honoring. That sort of news isn't nearly as much fun to pass on.
In my opinion, the worst offense of the busybody is that she destroys the Body of Christ. She brings division, distrust, and disillusionment to those who fall prey to her gossip. She destroys reputations and bring shame upon the name of Christ.
Unfortunately for her, she ends up a bitter and lonely person-one that Christians try to avoid. If you are a busybody, repent! If you know a busybody, avoid her and also pray for an opportunity to confront her with her sin, so that she may have the opportunity to repent and be restored.
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